The Weight of the Matter


 

Circa 2002

Pictures tell a thousand words. Ten years ago, I weighed in at 285 lbs. When this picture was taken in January of 2002, I took a very close look in the mirror, as I did not recognize the person in this photo. It was time to do some personal assessment. Everything had become an effort…I did not like what I saw and set out to change the person in the photo.

Circa 2004

Fast forward to 2004, I weighed in at 185 lbs. How did I do it, my motto was simple…”Eat Less and Move More!” My exercise consisted of rollerblading, bike riding, walking…, but most importantly, I incorporated a positive attitude into my daily schedule. After years of inactivity, I found my stride. I enjoyed being outside and was diligent in scheduling exercise into my daily calendar. Exercise was an important part of my life

Circa 2004

Circa 2005

Through my experience of taking care of Father Orlando and after his passing in January of 2006, I was able to keep the weight off and be as active as my schedule allowed me to be.

Circa 2006

Circa 2007

Yet I can see the weight starting to creep up in 2007.

After Father Orlando passed away in 2006, I made the leap of faith, sold the condo in Fort Lauderdale, and decide to return home to St. Louis in 2008 to be closer to family and friends. The return to St. Louis was filled with excitement, challenges, new adventures, and disappointment. ‘The Little One’ joined me in St. Louis, which was one of the best decisions that I made during this time span.

Yet somewhere along the line, I lost track of myself and the weight started to pile back on!

Circa 2008 & 2009

Circa 2010 & 2011

In August of 2011, ‘The Little One’ was diagnosed with Esophagus cancer and I found myself in the role of caregiver once again. I first recognized my severe weight gain in late 2011 when I weighed in at 252 lbs.

I was horrified!

Circa 2012

I let myself go and there was no one to blame other than me. While I was able to take off some of the weight early 2012, another transition happened…we returned to Florida to be closer to ‘The Little One’s’ health care providers. Another move, another transition, another new adventure...

STARTING OVER AGAIN

Circa 2012

Care giver stress comes in so many different forms; Emotional, Physical, Financial. Weight Loss is such a personal thing; there are so many components to healthy living and weight loss. None more important than friendship, support and a healthy mindset!

That is why I am excited about being involved in FitPass with Caregiving.com

FitPASS, a monthly membership program for family caregivers to find their fitness:

1. Weekly phone calls with a facilitator to discuss goals, receive feedback, feel support, get encouragement
2. Monthly members-only blogtalkradio show with an expert with health, fitness, finance, and nutrition.
3. Private online support group on Caregiving.com to connect with other members to post goals, celebrate success, stay focused.
4. Monthly chats on Twitter
5. Weekly private chats for members on the Caregiving.com

We have to be good caretakers of ourselves in order to be good caretakers of each other!

FitPASS is going to provide me with the support I need in order to get back to my ideal weight of 185lbs.

Our FitPASS program will be starting on September 10th and I am pleased to collaborate with Caregiving.com on this project!

For further information on FitPASS visit Caregiving.com

You will be able to track

progess right here at The Purple Jacket

Through our cancer treatments, our subsequent return to Fort Lauderdale, we have learned so many valuable lessons, none greater than this

Home is wherever we are together.

You see…

We might have Cancer…But Cancer does not have us!

 

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3 Responses to The Weight of the Matter

  1. I totally relate. Caregiving is wonderful and in many cases a surefire recipe for self neglect. At the same time our bodies are the evidence of the sacrifice made in love for all we have carried. Loving you big, small, fat, thin, young, old and any other way. Great to hear you are taking care and getting back to your healthy self care routines, at the same time you are so much more than your pant size. Blessings and peace to you both.

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