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Caregiving Can Change Your Heart


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Tuesday on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’  on Blog Talk Radio, I had the pleasure to visit with Suzanne Perkins-Newman, Founder and CEO of Answers For Elders.com.   Thrust into the role of Caregiver for her Mom at the height of her career,  Suzanne learned the importance of ‘living in my heart’ during her Caregiving journey.

Career focused and living life in the corporate world, Suzanne’s Caregiving journey provided her the opportunity to take a step back, “to be venerable”, “to be softer. ”  While living life in the reality of the care for her Mom, Suzanne’s Caregiving  changed her life in more ways than one.

Caregiving is not for the faint of heart; but Caregiving does change our heart!  Being entrusted with the care of another human being is one of the greatest honors that can be bestowed on another person.  While we caring-for-caregiverare in the midst of Caregiving, it may be difficult to see the importance of our role.  Sleepless nights, constant worry, loss of one’s individuality are just a sample of what Caregivers often feel during their Caregiving journey.   However, knowing that we are providing  a beautiful sunset to one’s life, will far outweigh the day-to-day challenges we face as a Caregiver. caring hands

 By combining her business knowledge and the passion Suzanne has in her heart, Suzanne created Answers For Elders.com.  I have no doubt that Suzanne’s endeavor will be a success and come to think about it, I’m sure Suzanne has always had a good and gentle heart!

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Caregivers: How Do You Relieve Stress?


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Tuesday on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ on Blog Talk radio my guest, was Licensed Massage Therapist Wayne White.

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Through the art of massage therapy, Wayne took us on a journey on how massage therapy can be a tool to aid in the healing of the mind, body, and spirit.   Wayne was clear in his message that massage therapy is not a replacement for curative care, yet a viable avenue to help reduce stress while being an aid in healing.

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Having balance in life allows us to ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ yet finding that balance during our busy Caregiving days can be difficult.

Here are some simple ‘Bow Tie Guy’ Tips to help you find balance and ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ heart

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  •         Be  willing to set aside time in your day that is just for you.
  •         Allow yourself the freedom to explore something new.
  •        Have the courage to ask for help when needed.
  •        Care for yourself as well as you care for your Caree.

 

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Stress plays an adversarial role with our mind, body and spirit. Finding that delicate balance that will help relieve stress is essential for our well-being.  Taking that first step to help relieve  stress is often the most difficult step to take.

I would love to hear how you relieve stress in your life?  Feel free to leave your comments below or email me directly at Chris@thepurplejacket.com

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Caregivers: How Massage Therapy Can Help Relieve Stress


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On Tuesday May 28th at 1:00 pm (est)  we welcome licensed massage therapist, Wayne White to our ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ Show on Blog Talk Radio!  To listen to the show live, simply click here! 

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Wayne White, Licensed Massage Therapist

Massage therapy is one of the most soothing gifts that one can experience in life.  Stress relief and massage therapy go hand in hand.  Those long stressful days of work and Caregiving can be removed by the simple touch of a licensed massage therapist.

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Wayne working in his studio

On today’s show, we are going to explore with Wayne the art of massage therapy and why massage therapy is essential to good mental and physical health.  Through our conversation today with Wayne, we will all learn how to ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver!’

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Caregivers: Use Your Right Brain, Too!


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On Tuesday, we welcomed Benjamin Azevedo, M.D. from New Orléans Bow Ties to our ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ show on Blog Talk Radio. To listen to our entire show, simply click here!

Our conversation was more than just about the making of beautiful Bow Ties, our conversation centered on the importance of having an equal balance in life.  Ben recently graduated from Tulane Medical School in New Orleans and will be starting his internship in San Diego later this summer.  Medical school, like any academic disciplines, can be trying, even for the most dedicated students.

Ben has always resonated with the idea that there are two sides to the brain; the left being in charge of linear analytical thinking and focuses, ordered, logical execution while the right is more expansive, creative, and boundless.  During his blog_Brainfirst year in medical school, Ben realized that he was letting his left-brain take control of his life and strip it of the art, music, and imagination that his family had fostered throughout his life.  Ben put a conscious effort into letting go of his stress and thrust himself into the exploration of what his right brain had to offer.  Ben first began to cook, to draw, to exercise more and get out into nature.  Then the idea came of creating beautiful Bow Ties, which has become a conversational piece in his work, while allowing his right brain to explore.  Along with his masterful work of creating beautiful bow ties, Ben also recognized the need for Doctors to learn how to communicate good patient care, especially when dealing with difficult end of life issues with patients and their families.    With his attraction to palliative care and hospice, Ben created an elective course at Tulane University teaching the art of communication to medical students.  The course has been well-received by both students and faculty. “This is cutting edge material”, I thought.  We all know there is more to Doctor/Patient, Doctor/Family communication than just reading a chart!   With his communication class, Ben is providing a great tool for medical students, who in most cases, would never have been exposed to such an important learning tool. 

As our conversation continued, I was struck by how much I have let my right brain linger.  As a Caregiver, I realized that I am constantly in the left – brain mode; always analyzing, worrying, thinking about the need of my caree, completely focused on his needs rather than my own.    As my weight continues to rise, while my hobbies are put on hold,  my right brain strives to be released from its shackles, to explore, to create to be free again.  I wonder how many caregivers might just feel the same way?  I know I am going to make a conscious effort to be more creative while elimination self imposed stress! 

Ben’s terrific example of letting his left brain explore, not only afforded him the opportunity to make beautiful bow ties, it allowed him to go on step further by combining the best of his right and left brain by creating such a meaningful communication class for medical students!

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This next time I run into a young physician who provides empathic communication, I will want to ask them if they took Ben’s communication class at Tulane University.   If they are wearing a bow tie, I’ll know it without even asking!  

                                                  

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Tuesday on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’: Benjamin Azevedo


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On Tuesday May 21st at 1:00 pm (est), we welcome Benjamin Azevedo, M.D. from New Orléans Bow Ties to our ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ show on Blog  Talk Radio.  Ben is a recent  graduated from Tulane University in New Orléans and will be heading to San Diego to start his residency program later this summer. To listen to our show, simply click here!

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Ben has always resonated with the idea that there are two sides to the brain; the left being in charge of linear analytical thinking and focuses, ordered, logical execution while the right is more expansive, creative, and boundless.  During his first year in medical school, Ben realized that he was letting his left brain take control of his life and strip it of the art and music and imagination that his family had fostered throughout his life. He put a conscious effort into letting go of his stress and thrust himself into the exploration of what his right brain had to offer.

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Ben began to cook, to draw, to exercise more and to get out into nature.  Then the idea came of creating beautiful bow ties which has become a conversational piece in his work, while allowing his right brain to explore!

Ben’s passion and life goals are in medicine and public health, but he has realized that without a healthy balance of the dreaming artist and the practical scholar, he would be less happy, less productive, and miss out on the vibe of his favorite city. He is grateful for a hardworking team that believes in his vision and allows him to lead a life that balances fashion and scholarship.

Every day as he looks in the mirror, buttons his shirt collar, and methodically ties his hand-made bow tie, he is reminded of the balance he is seeking. His left brain is satisfied by the process, the order, and the crisp look of the bright silk in parallel with his smile, while his right brain expounds on the imperfect asymmetry of the knot and the creativity that got him to this point. 

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On today’s show, Ben will demonstrate to us the importance of having an equal balance in our lives so that we can all ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver!’

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Tuesday on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver:’ Caring Is Not Enough


be-healthyOn Tuesday, April 30th at 1:00 pm (est) we welcome author Terry Ann Black, RN to our ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver show on Blog Talk Radio.  To access the show live on Tuesday, simply click here!

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Terry Ann Black, RN

As a  registered nurse for 47 years, Terry has  worked with many people in times of crisis. However her life changing experience came when Terry’s father-in-law died in an auto accident, leaving  her family with limited knowledge on where to find all his important documents.

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Now in its 5th edition, Terry’s book Caring Is Not Enough provides her readers with a clear and concise information on how individuals and families can get their affairs in order. Through our conversation on Tuesday, Terry will demonstrate to us how we can ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’

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Be A Healthy Caregiver on Blog Talk Radio


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On Tuesday April 16th at 1:00 pm (est) we welcome John Schwaig from Fabrication Arts Center in St. Louis to our show.   You can access Tuesday’s show by clicking here!

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Fabrication Arts creates and designs custom and unique art for home and office decor. Their beautiful custom beveled and stained glass, is truly a sight to behold.

 After a mid-life change from teaching and counseling, John has turned what he thought was a hobby, into a second career! Through his classes and workshops on Stained Glass, John offers cancer patients and survivors a chance to find a new hobby and a chance to take their mind off an insidious disease.

Through our conversation today, John will demonstrate to us how the importance of having a hobby will allow us all to “Be A Healthy Caregiver!”

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This Tuesday on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ on Blog Talk Radio


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On Tuesday April 9th, we welcome Shane Smith, Executive Director of Home Helpers to our ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ show on Blog Talk Radio.  You can access the show by clicking here!  

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Founded in 1997, Home Helpers serves over 500 communities across the United States and Canada. Shane and is wife Jessika, are the owner/operators of Home Helpers in Weston, Florida.

When it comes to home health care, there are plenty of models to choose from.  Yet Shane and his staff offer the personal touch that makes them one of the leading Home Health Care agencies in the nation.

Through our conversation today, Shane and Jessika will demonstrate to us on how selecting the right home health care agency will help us all  ’Be A Healthy Caregiver’ 

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Be A Healthy Caregiver on Blog Talk Radio


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On Tuesday March 26th at 1:00 pm (est) we welcome Dr. John J. Garnand,  author of ‘Cancer Caregiver Roles: What You Need to Know’ to our show.  You can listen to our show by clicking here.

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John is a lifetime educator, award-winning instructor in the general areas of business strategy, management operations and ethics.   Yet I am sure John will tell you that his most important role he has had in his life, is that of a Caregiver!

His book, ’Cancer Caregiver Roles: What You Need to CCRcoverKnow’ is John’s effort to pull together all the information that he learned over nine years of attending to his cancer patient loved one.  John’s book is well worth reading!

Through our conversation today, John will help us all learn how to ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ 

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The Night I Turned the Cell Phone Off


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For many caregivers, there is never a day off. Sure respite care is available, but even when we have a day or an hour of respite, we are always just a phone call away, and we are always wondering what is going on with our Caree.

My phone call came on Wednesday January 25 , 2006…’Chris, I am sorry to have to tell you, but Father Orlando’s kidneys have failedI am so sorry, he does not have very long to live.” The call was surrealMy response was…”Can you hold off on giving him morphine until I get there, I want to be able to talk to him.” ‘I’m sorry, Chriswe have already started him on the morphine, we do not want him to experience any pain. Of course, I did not want him to experience any more pain, too.

When Father Orlando started his transition to eternal life, it was a peaceful 36 hours for him. While the last few years of his life were filled with many health calamities, his peaceful transition into eternal life was truly a gift from God; it was a special gift for us both.

When I arrived at the hospital, he was lying peacefully in bed with an angelic smile on his face. What was significant about Wednesday January 25th was that he was going to be discharged from the hospital that afternoon. I spent the morning preparing for his return home with a visit to the grocery store, storing up his favorite foods for the next chapter in our Caregiving journey.

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The next 36 hours were filled with scripture readings, visits from close friends, calls to family and a few hours of respite care from our friend Dan who had been such a great help during our Caregiving journey. The last communication I had with Father Orlando was when I was holding his hand as he gently rubbed his thumb over the top of my hand. Those gentle strokes across the top of my hand was his way of telling me that he loved me and that he was at peace. I can still feel his gentle strokes across the top of my left had today.

When he took his last breath at 1:13 am on Friday January 27th, he had that same angelic smile on his face that he did when I arrived at the hospital on Wednesday. It was at that time that I realized what an honor it is to be a caregiver.

As I walked to my car, leaving the hospital that early Friday morning was unreal as a relationship of 18 years had just ended. The intensity of being his caregiver for the last 18 months, revealed a deeper love and commitment that we had never experienced in life. Upon arriving at my car, I was finishing up with one last phone call before leaving the hospital on last time.  As I settled into my car, I could see that the light was still on in his hospital 4th floor room. Then suddenly, the light went off in his room as  I was finishing the call. I looked at my phone, then looked back up at his room and then simply turned my cell phone off.

IMG_1121The significance of turning off the cell phone was the stark realization that my role as his caregiver had ended. I could not ever remember the last time I had turned the cell phone off at night!  No were more emergencies, no more calamities, nothing more worry about, he was finally at rest.  For me, this was the start of a transition in my life in how I would love and care for him differently, that continues to evolve today.

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