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Caregivers: Use Your Right Brain, Too!


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On Tuesday, we welcomed Benjamin Azevedo, M.D. from New Orléans Bow Ties to our ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ show on Blog Talk Radio. To listen to our entire show, simply click here!

Our conversation was more than just about the making of beautiful Bow Ties, our conversation centered on the importance of having an equal balance in life.  Ben recently graduated from Tulane Medical School in New Orleans and will be starting his internship in San Diego later this summer.  Medical school, like any academic disciplines, can be trying, even for the most dedicated students.

Ben has always resonated with the idea that there are two sides to the brain; the left being in charge of linear analytical thinking and focuses, ordered, logical execution while the right is more expansive, creative, and boundless.  During his blog_Brainfirst year in medical school, Ben realized that he was letting his left-brain take control of his life and strip it of the art, music, and imagination that his family had fostered throughout his life.  Ben put a conscious effort into letting go of his stress and thrust himself into the exploration of what his right brain had to offer.  Ben first began to cook, to draw, to exercise more and get out into nature.  Then the idea came of creating beautiful Bow Ties, which has become a conversational piece in his work, while allowing his right brain to explore.  Along with his masterful work of creating beautiful bow ties, Ben also recognized the need for Doctors to learn how to communicate good patient care, especially when dealing with difficult end of life issues with patients and their families.    With his attraction to palliative care and hospice, Ben created an elective course at Tulane University teaching the art of communication to medical students.  The course has been well-received by both students and faculty. “This is cutting edge material”, I thought.  We all know there is more to Doctor/Patient, Doctor/Family communication than just reading a chart!   With his communication class, Ben is providing a great tool for medical students, who in most cases, would never have been exposed to such an important learning tool. 

As our conversation continued, I was struck by how much I have let my right brain linger.  As a Caregiver, I realized that I am constantly in the left – brain mode; always analyzing, worrying, thinking about the need of my caree, completely focused on his needs rather than my own.    As my weight continues to rise, while my hobbies are put on hold,  my right brain strives to be released from its shackles, to explore, to create to be free again.  I wonder how many caregivers might just feel the same way?  I know I am going to make a conscious effort to be more creative while elimination self imposed stress! 

Ben’s terrific example of letting his left brain explore, not only afforded him the opportunity to make beautiful bow ties, it allowed him to go on step further by combining the best of his right and left brain by creating such a meaningful communication class for medical students!

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This next time I run into a young physician who provides empathic communication, I will want to ask them if they took Ben’s communication class at Tulane University.   If they are wearing a bow tie, I’ll know it without even asking!  

                                                  

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Tuesday on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’: Benjamin Azevedo


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On Tuesday May 21st at 1:00 pm (est), we welcome Benjamin Azevedo, M.D. from New Orléans Bow Ties to our ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ show on Blog  Talk Radio.  Ben is a recent  graduated from Tulane University in New Orléans and will be heading to San Diego to start his residency program later this summer. To listen to our show, simply click here!

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Ben has always resonated with the idea that there are two sides to the brain; the left being in charge of linear analytical thinking and focuses, ordered, logical execution while the right is more expansive, creative, and boundless.  During his first year in medical school, Ben realized that he was letting his left brain take control of his life and strip it of the art and music and imagination that his family had fostered throughout his life. He put a conscious effort into letting go of his stress and thrust himself into the exploration of what his right brain had to offer.

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Ben began to cook, to draw, to exercise more and to get out into nature.  Then the idea came of creating beautiful bow ties which has become a conversational piece in his work, while allowing his right brain to explore!

Ben’s passion and life goals are in medicine and public health, but he has realized that without a healthy balance of the dreaming artist and the practical scholar, he would be less happy, less productive, and miss out on the vibe of his favorite city. He is grateful for a hardworking team that believes in his vision and allows him to lead a life that balances fashion and scholarship.

Every day as he looks in the mirror, buttons his shirt collar, and methodically ties his hand-made bow tie, he is reminded of the balance he is seeking. His left brain is satisfied by the process, the order, and the crisp look of the bright silk in parallel with his smile, while his right brain expounds on the imperfect asymmetry of the knot and the creativity that got him to this point. 

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On today’s show, Ben will demonstrate to us the importance of having an equal balance in our lives so that we can all ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver!’

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Tuesday on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver:’ Caring Is Not Enough


be-healthyOn Tuesday, April 30th at 1:00 pm (est) we welcome author Terry Ann Black, RN to our ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver show on Blog Talk Radio.  To access the show live on Tuesday, simply click here!

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As a  registered nurse for 47 years, Terry has  worked with many people in times of crisis. However her life changing experience came when Terry’s father-in-law died in an auto accident, leaving  her family with limited knowledge on where to find all his important documents.

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Now in its 5th edition, Terry’s book Caring Is Not Enough provides her readers with a clear and concise information on how individuals and families can get their affairs in order. Through our conversation on Tuesday, Terry will demonstrate to us how we can ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’

Visit Terry’s  website and buy her book by simply click here! 

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Always remember… “It’s Our Hope That Lets Us Withstand ProblemsIt’s Our Dreams That Let’s Us Find solutions! 

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Be A Healthy Caregiver on Blog Talk Radio


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On Tuesday April 16th at 1:00 pm (est) we welcome John Schwaig from Fabrication Arts Center in St. Louis to our show.   You can access Tuesday’s show by clicking here!

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Fabrication Arts creates and designs custom and unique art for home and office decor. Their beautiful custom beveled and stained glass, is truly a sight to behold.

 After a mid-life change from teaching and counseling, John has turned what he thought was a hobby, into a second career! Through his classes and workshops on Stained Glass, John offers cancer patients and survivors a chance to find a new hobby and a chance to take their mind off an insidious disease.

Through our conversation today, John will demonstrate to us how the importance of having a hobby will allow us all to “Be A Healthy Caregiver!”

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This Tuesday on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ on Blog Talk Radio


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On Tuesday April 9th, we welcome Shane Smith, Executive Director of Home Helpers to our ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ show on Blog Talk Radio.  You can access the show by clicking here!  

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Founded in 1997, Home Helpers serves over 500 communities across the United States and Canada. Shane and is wife Jessika, are the owner/operators of Home Helpers in Weston, Florida.

When it comes to home health care, there are plenty of models to choose from.  Yet Shane and his staff offer the personal touch that makes them one of the leading Home Health Care agencies in the nation.

Through our conversation today, Shane and Jessika will demonstrate to us on how selecting the right home health care agency will help us all  ’Be A Healthy Caregiver’ 

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Be A Healthy Caregiver on Blog Talk Radio


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On Tuesday March 26th at 1:00 pm (est) we welcome Dr. John J. Garnand,  author of ‘Cancer Caregiver Roles: What You Need to Know’ to our show.  You can listen to our show by clicking here.

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John is a lifetime educator, award-winning instructor in the general areas of business strategy, management operations and ethics.   Yet I am sure John will tell you that his most important role he has had in his life, is that of a Caregiver!

His book, ’Cancer Caregiver Roles: What You Need to CCRcoverKnow’ is John’s effort to pull together all the information that he learned over nine years of attending to his cancer patient loved one.  John’s book is well worth reading!

Through our conversation today, John will help us all learn how to ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ 

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The Night I Turned the Cell Phone Off


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For many caregivers, there is never a day off. Sure respite care is available, but even when we have a day or an hour of respite, we are always just a phone call away, and we are always wondering what is going on with our Caree.

My phone call came on Wednesday January 25 , 2006…’Chris, I am sorry to have to tell you, but Father Orlando’s kidneys have failedI am so sorry, he does not have very long to live.” The call was surrealMy response was…”Can you hold off on giving him morphine until I get there, I want to be able to talk to him.” ‘I’m sorry, Chriswe have already started him on the morphine, we do not want him to experience any pain. Of course, I did not want him to experience any more pain, too.

When Father Orlando started his transition to eternal life, it was a peaceful 36 hours for him. While the last few years of his life were filled with many health calamities, his peaceful transition into eternal life was truly a gift from God; it was a special gift for us both.

When I arrived at the hospital, he was lying peacefully in bed with an angelic smile on his face. What was significant about Wednesday January 25th was that he was going to be discharged from the hospital that afternoon. I spent the morning preparing for his return home with a visit to the grocery store, storing up his favorite foods for the next chapter in our Caregiving journey.

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The next 36 hours were filled with scripture readings, visits from close friends, calls to family and a few hours of respite care from our friend Dan who had been such a great help during our Caregiving journey. The last communication I had with Father Orlando was when I was holding his hand as he gently rubbed his thumb over the top of my hand. Those gentle strokes across the top of my hand was his way of telling me that he loved me and that he was at peace. I can still feel his gentle strokes across the top of my left had today.

When he took his last breath at 1:13 am on Friday January 27th, he had that same angelic smile on his face that he did when I arrived at the hospital on Wednesday. It was at that time that I realized what an honor it is to be a caregiver.

As I walked to my car, leaving the hospital that early Friday morning was unreal as a relationship of 18 years had just ended. The intensity of being his caregiver for the last 18 months, revealed a deeper love and commitment that we had never experienced in life. Upon arriving at my car, I was finishing up with one last phone call before leaving the hospital on last time.  As I settled into my car, I could see that the light was still on in his hospital 4th floor room. Then suddenly, the light went off in his room as  I was finishing the call. I looked at my phone, then looked back up at his room and then simply turned my cell phone off.

IMG_1121The significance of turning off the cell phone was the stark realization that my role as his caregiver had ended. I could not ever remember the last time I had turned the cell phone off at night!  No were more emergencies, no more calamities, nothing more worry about, he was finally at rest.  For me, this was the start of a transition in my life in how I would love and care for him differently, that continues to evolve today.

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Are Your Advance Directives Up-To-Date?


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As Caregivers, we often have a number of daily responsibilities on our mind in relation to the (physical) health and wellness of our Caree.   However, there are other important responsibilities that we as Caregivers have  to attend to that is not always on  the daily schedule.   One of those responsibilities is to assure that all  the Advance Directives are current and up-to-date!

We have been talking about reviewing our Advance Directives since we returned full-time to Florida last year.  Recently we visited with our attorney Jake Miller  to review our advance directives and did not realize  until we sat down with Jake, that our directives were more than six years old.  (Time does fly, even in Caregiving!) While our ‘instructions’ and ‘wishes’ were still the same, we learned from our visit with our attorney that Florida Law had changed quite a bit over the years and that we were in need of an update on our directives!

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‘The Little One’ with our attorney, Jake Miller, Esq.

Here are some pragmatic reminders that will help us all ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’

  • Review your advance directives on a yearly basis:
  • Be mindful that State Laws do change and updates are needed on a regular basis:
  • When having ‘the talk’, reassure your Caree that this conversation is about their wishes, not yours:
  • Don’t pressure, reassure:
  • Keep a hard copy of the advance directives in your car at all times:
  • Consider storing your advance directive in an electronic database: I recommend Docubank :
  • Keep an updated copy of your Caree’s  medications with the Advanced Directives;
  • Always have a ‘hard copy’ of your advance directives readily available at home for emergency personnel including up-to-date information on medications:
  • Learn about the ‘Five Wishes‘ by clicking here:

While having ‘the conversation’ in regards to Advance Directives  is not always easy, assuring that your Advance Directives are up-to-date, will help reduce stress in an emergency!

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LGBT Aging Through the Lens of Gen Silent on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ on Blog Talk Radio


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On Tuesday, March 19th at 1:00 pm (est) we are thrilled to welcome Stu Maddux, Director & Producer of the critically acclaimed film, Gen Silent to our Be A Healthy Caregiver’ show on Blog Talk Radio.

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The real life stories of love, commitment, discernment, hope, happiness and despair told through the lens of “Gen Silent are gut wrenching, yet important for all audiences in order to understand the plight of LGBT seniors in America. Producer/Director Stu Maddux does a splendid job in piecing together these LGBT pioneers who helped paved the way for what we know today as Gay Pride.

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As the Huffington Post said: ”The film is heartbreaking, personal and the issues are real.”

Our conversation with Stu will not only focus on the film itself, but how Gen Silent has brought awareness to LGBT Aging issues in today’s society.   Through our conversation, Stu will help us all learn how to ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver.’  

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It is an honor to have ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ selected as a ‘Featured Show’ by the folks at Blog Talk Radio for Tuesday, March 19th!

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Caregiving and Those Silly Hats


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I will be the first to admit that I have hit a dry spell recently in my writing.  When chatting with other bloggers about this, I have learned that hitting a dry spell, or ‘The Wall’ as it has been described to me, is not uncommon.  When you are a working family caregiver, there is often this tug of war between what you want to do,  versus what you have time to do, coupled with the fact of what you have to do.   No matter what role you might have in life, finding that  balancing act is always a challenge.

A great example of finding that balancing act in life happened this past weekend at a fundraising event for work.   While I always like to include ‘The Little One’ in on as many events that he feels up to attend, this past weekend I was quite surprised when we both went ‘all in’ at SunServe’s Garden and Hat party.  Creating crazy looking bonnets is not something that we do on a regular basis, yet we had a great time together shopping, creating and wearing ‘those’  hats on Sunday.

The Mad HattersWhile we did not win the crazy hat contest,  the weekend event reminded me that bonding over something that is fun is essential  for both of us.  If you’re a caregiver like me, I am sure you get caught up in the daily routine of making sure everything is prefect for your caree.

The past few months, ‘The Little One’ has been blessed with more good days than bad,  for which we are both grateful. Yet to  ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ it is essential to find those times when we can take our mind off of things that we cannot control (cancer), and have fun with something that we can control (crazy hats).  Letting go of control can be hard, yet in those bonding moments, there is a sense of freedom that for a moment, helps take all our worries away.  Come to think about it…having one less worry  in our day, helps us us find that elusive balance in our lives that we so constantly strive to achieve.

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