Before I refuse to take your questions, I have an opening statement…Ronald Reagan
As we walked into the office at the radiation oncologist this morning TLO proclaimed to the staff ‘ I’m here, let the games begin!’ Of course his ‘proclamation’ was greeted with a big smile by the staff as he sat down in the waiting room waiting for his time in the radiation ‘whirlybird!’ We are trying to find as much humor as possible as we can during this trying time.
The current plan of radiation treatment is focused on the tumor which is located in the cervical part of the spine. This is the area where TLO is experiencing the most amount of pain and discomfort. Because of its location, this is the tumor that is of the greatest concern. The last two nights at home have been difficult for him. The pain across his back makes it difficult for him to lay down comfortably in bed, sometimes the recliner is the most comfortable spot for him. The most important part of this process is to alleviate as much of his pain as possible. So, where ever he feels is the most comfortable spot for him, I’m all for it!
After yesterday’s treatment, we went for an ice coffee and found ourselves in a department store looking at curtains of all things. I can’t remember the last time we were even in a department store! TLO wanted new curtains for the dining room, ‘why not’ I said! In between his naps yesterday, I hung the curtains which lead to a conversation this morning prior to our departure for today’s treatment. ‘Thanks for agreeing on the curtains, don’t you think they are beautiful,’ TLO said. ‘Of course they are because you picked them out,’ I said with a smile. ‘It’s important to have things that you want, isn’t,’ he said? ‘Of course so,’ I replied. ‘If there is anything you want, I will do my best to get it for you!’
As we have progressed through the first few days of the radiation treatment, we know that we are just starting to scratch the surface to our emotions, our fears, and our determination. Today’s session has taken quite a bit out of TLO as evident by how terrible he is feeling this afternoon. We know that Cancer is an unwelcome guest in our home, but this unwelcome guest has brought with it the ability for us to draw closer, to dig deeper into the surface of our emotions and fears, while strengthening our determination. I guess there is something to learn from an unwelcome guest!
You see…We Might Have Cancer, But Cancer Does Not Have Us!
- Defining the 3 goals of palliative care (kevinmd.com)
- Salone Celebrates World Hospice & Palliative Care Day (sierraexpressmedia.com)
- The best cancer care isn’t always the most expensive (washingtonpost.com)
- What’s On Your Refrigerator? (thepurplejacket.com)
- The Call For Hospice (thepurplejacket.com)
- Never Alone (thepurplejacket.com)
- Penn study shows the high costs of unnecessary radiation treatments for terminal cancer patients (eurekalert.org)
- Cancer: That Unwelcomed Guest Has Returned (thepurplejacket.com)
- Positive Thoughts Helps Ease The Diagnosis (thepurplejacket.com)
5 responses to “Hello and Please, Come In!”
Listen to what your body tells you. If you feel tired , rest. Try to get enough sleep and eat healthy food while getting radiation. You need to stay strong for the battle. I’m thinking of you with healing thoughts.
I’ve conveyed your wishes to TLO, he is sooooo appreciative of you and your friendship..and so am I!
You’ve got to love TLO’s spirit. And if he tires of the drapes, I know a nice southern girl who can tell you how to make them into a ball gown 😉
Thanks Holly…He’s pretty amazing! I will keep that nice southern girl in mind when I need a ball gown! 🙂
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