Christmas is a season not only of rejoicing but of reflection. Winston Churchill
Richard and I had a Christmas Eve tradition where he would make a reservation at one of his favorite restaurants for Christmas Eve dinner and then we would take a ride down A1A in Palm Beach and Broward Counties to look at the spectacular Christmas lights adjacent to the Atlantic Ocean. We would always marvel at the tremendous configurations of lights as we motored down the road. A palm tree wrapped in Christmas lights is something you just don’t see in Brooklyn or St. Louis. I’ve made the same trip down memory lane the last two Christmas Eve’s and plan to do the ride again this Saturday on Christmas eve 2016.
It is amazing to me that I am approaching my third Holiday Season without Richard. (I use Holiday only because Richard was Jewish and I am Catholic) My, how time does fly!
The first Christmas without Richard was difficult. One of the events that got me through the ride was Caregiving.com 36-Hour Christmas Care Chat. While chats are available just about 24/7 on Caregiving.com, this chat was special, at least to me. I will never forgot the kindness of the volunteer, @RoaringMouse, that Christmas Eve in 2014. We chatted for I guess almost an hour, we laughed, we cried, we reminisced… we were just there for each other. Thanks to my chat with @RoaringMouse I understood that while this ride would be different, the ride would be just as meaningful as it was the year before when Richard was sitting next to me in the passengers seat. @RoaringMouse helped me realized that I really was not alone on that first Christmas without Richard.
Caregiving.com 36-Hour chat starts this Saturday at noon and will continue on through midnight on Christmas night. “Volunteers who understand” just like @RoaringMouse, will be there to lend support, and be there for you, no matter where you are on your caregiving journey. I know I will never ever forget, and will be forever grateful, for my time with @RoaringMouse on Christmas Eve 2014.
Sure, that old cliche’ is true, time heals all wounds, but wounds heal in their own time. Each one of us adjusts differently when the one we love makes their life transition. My mind tells me that he is forever pain free, my faith tells me that I will see him again, my heart tells me he will be sitting right next to me on our drive on Saturday night.
Sometimes in order to move forward, we just have to look back on our past.
Visit Caregiving.com to learn more about the 36-Hour CareGiving Chat and how you might be able to participate.
No matter where you are on your caregiving journey, you’ll be glad that you stopped by for a cup of comfort.