The ‘new shoes are feeling just fine…so much so, the ‘Imelda Marcos’ of South Florida has decided to come out…rather…clean out his closet!
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One thing the real Imelda never did; was something that made me proud of ‘The Little One’
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When you give up something, it always comes back two-fold!
You see…We might have cancer, but cancer does not have us!
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Always be the rose in your Mother’s eye
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Honor your past; but don’t live in it!
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Equality is a human right, not a privilege!
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Today we picked up “The Little One’s” new shoes today Hanger Prosthetic and Orthotics. Unfortunately, the first choice of shoes ‘The Little One’ selected, somehow was not available in a therapeutic model! These Stilettos would make Bette Midler proud as she would be singing…”In These Shoes” once she laid eyes on these shoes!
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As we arrived in the office of Hanger Prosthetic and Orthotics we were greeted by Shelley who assisted us last week with the fitting. Shelley is great to work with, she pulls no punches, knows what she is talking about and has a care for all her clients. It was a pleasure to work with her.
Within moments of sitting in the waiting room, the new shoes arrived and the Imelda Marcos of South Florida was back in his element. Mindful of what Shelley mentioned last week that “these shoes” would feel a little ‘loose’ at first, ‘The Little One’ was quick to comment about just that! “When I get a blister on the back of my foot from ‘These Shoes’ being loose, I will be back next week to show you!” Of course, my laughing at this statement was is not the polite thing to do!
Shelley handled the comment with grace; by the time we were ready to leave, the Imelda Marcos of South Florida had already had is eye out on another pair of shoes. Should I have really have been surprised?
The good folks at Hanger really treated us well today. There was a complete mix up with the co-pay, they admitted their error and allowed us to send in payment as we were under the impression that there was no funds due upon pick up of ‘These Shoes.’ Customer Service goes a long way in leaving a lasting impression on consumers. I knew from my previous experience with Hanger that they were a model company whose mission is to help people lead a better life. They proved it again today! It goes without saying that when you are in the people business, you need to be about the people! Hanger proved that again today. And with that, had one happy customer leaving their office today!
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You see…we might have cancer, but cancer does not have us!
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Never one to be a horticulturist, I am always intrigued by the variety of beautiful trees we have in this diverse country of ours. Now that we are back in Florida, I am reminded about the beautiful foliage that Florida has to offer, especially the Palm Trees. You really don’t get to see many Palm trees in St. Louis.
In Missouri, just like here in Florida, there is an abundance of pine trees. In fact, we have a pine tree in our yard where I am constantly picking up the pine cones that fall from the branches.
While picking one of the zillion or so pine cone, I noticed something at the base of the tree that caught my attention…
Intrigued by the green plastic sprouting out of the ground, I asked ‘The Little One’ to explain this phenomenon. ( I did not know we could grow plastic in the ground and first thought that we might have come across the next great invention and I wanted to be sure we got the Patton on this discovery!)
“Herman planted that tree in 1976, that is the plastic bucket that the tree came in that is coming out of the ground. Every time I see that tree, I think of Herman!”
WOW…talk about some powerful symbolism! While Herman has been gone now for over 13 years, Herman’s tree grows tall and strong as a reminder to ‘The Little One” of a long and beautiful relationship.
Richard (a.k.a. ‘The Little One”) and Herman were together for 44 years and moved to Florida in 1976 before it was in vogue to move south. Like us, there was an age difference between Herman and Richard. And like us, Richard became Herman’s care giver: funny how roles change in life when we age?
When Richard cared for Herman, many of their friends came to help them with their daily task. Herman often asked Richard…’What would I do without you?”
While caring for your love one or partner should be assumed, that is not always the case; especially for LGBT seniors. According to SAGE USA LGBT Seniors are:
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The trip to the oncologist brought a big smile to everyone face. Amazed at the progress of ‘The Little One’ the doctor encouraged us to continue on this smooth path and don’t come back for six months!
Now seven months past the diagnosis and five months past the last Chemo/radiation treatment, we find ourselves on an upwards swing. We have much to be thankful for…
Wonderful family…
Fun times…
Great Friends…
Love comes in all shapes and sizes: don’t let love pass you by because life can change at a moments notice.
You see, we might have cancer… But cancer does not have us!
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As we continue with our transition back to Florida, it is hard to believe that we have already been here a month. Yet, after one month, it is easy to see the positive affects that this transitions has had on ‘The Little One.” It really comes down to one simple aspect of life…INDEPENDENCE.
One of the main issues that usually surfaces in a care giving role is that of independence versus dependence. We all strive to keep our independence; it’s that physiological edge that makes us want to cry out for more. Illness in general and cancer in particular, often lead to dependence. Dependence can heighten the illness in which you are fighting to over come; dependence can in turn lead to depression, which all to often creeps into our physical and mental being.
While we miss our family and friends in St. Louis, ‘The Little One’ has gained quite a bit of his independence back since returning to Florida full-time. There is a second car to drive, there are long-standing friends and family in the area, there is a house that he shared with his partner Herman for over 30 years, trips to the grocery store and an ocean right down the road; the list goes on and on. 
All to often we tend to forget that it is the simple things in life that mean the most. When you are a caregiver, often times you have to give up things you love in order to care for the one you love. It’s not a hardship, it’s not a problem, it is just something you do when you know it is right.
As I sit back and watch the remarkable improvement in his health, we know that life changes on a moments notice. We live in the moment, hoping that our decisions help facilitate good health and prosperity for everyone! So far, we seem to be on the right track. When I see ‘The Little One’ pulling out of the garage and off in his little buggy, I think…’how remarkable this truly is given the fact that six months ago he was not even driving a car, a prisoner to our home, dependent in the majority of things that he wanted to do.
Thursday we motor to the Oncologist for our next update; so far all the Doc’s have been pleased. There is weight gain, there is added strength, there is a mark difference in personality…a personality of independence.
You see, we might have Cancer…But Cancer does not have us!
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Humor can take the edge off a number of situations, especially when dealing with serious health or care-giving issues. For those who have followed our blog, you’ll know that we often use humor to get through many difficult days. Reality is what it is; hard do change, sometimes equally hard to deal with.
Moving can be stressful too, yet in a different way. Sooner or later, the last box will be unpacked, the last picture will find itself on the wall, everything will find its place! Even a miss-placed Lamp Shade.
Upon the arrival of the furniture and the mounds of mess and stress that followed, I was left to ponder about caregivers who are often under stress and burdened by their task at hand. You see, sometimes in the heat of care-giving, we can lose sight of the fact that the one who is being cared for is… ill.
When your ‘patient’ says something out-of-turn, don’t blame the ‘patient’… blame the disease. When your ‘patient’ does not feel like eating, don’t blame the ‘patient’…blame the disease. When ‘the patient’ is just not feeling up to doing something, don’t blame the ‘patient’…blame the disease. Caring is a daunting task and the caregiver often loses themselves in the process, and you know, that’s OK because it’s not ‘the patient’s’ fault…it’s the disease.
Just as Lamp Shades protect the bright lights of the bulbs of which they cover, care-givers do the same as they protect and ‘shade’ those for who they care for. When the light burns out, we don’t blame the shade, we blame the bulb. When illness plays havoc with our loved one, we don’t blame the patient, we blame the disease.
When we are focused on the task at hand, mindful that it’s the disease, not the patient…every ‘lamp shade’ finds its proper place, with love, tenderness and commitment.
We are blessed by the good health reports we are receiving in Florida and look to continue to bring great ‘shade’ to those around us!
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