There cannot be a crisis next week. My schedule is already full ~ Henry A. Kissinger
As I continue to grieve and heal, I look back at those moments during our caregiving journey that brought laughter to our hearts. Richard had such a dry sense of humor and a quick wit and if truth be told, he really did enjoy having his picture taken too. We used humor and laughter quite bit during our Caregiving journey. Whether it was a trip out for a delicious scoop of ice cream or a visit to get a hair cut, we tried to inject as much humor into our day as was humanly possible.
We let our humor combat some of those dark days, too. Richard loved Monty Python, especially ‘Spamalot’…I think we both saw the play three times. There was a day, early on after the diagnosis where Richard was playing the music from ‘Spamalot’ when all of a sudden the famous song,
“He’s Not Dead Yet” started to blare through the Bose speakers. We both looked at each other in utter amazement; we laughed, we cried, we hugged each other and we laughed some more. That song became our battle cry, and because of that song, the laughter we shared, provided that spark which enabled Richard to live his life to the fullest.
As our caregiving journey continued to unfold, there was no doubt that we traveled the journey together, side by side, one by one. We shared in the emotions, we shared in the joy and laughter, knowing that sorrow was somewhere around the corner. Yet the sorrow that we shared was the realization that our time together was not going to be as long as we would have wanted it to be. No more, no less.
The lesson that I’ve learned during our Caregiving journey was that I was the co-pilot, Richard was the pilot. Richard was the one going through the radiation treatments, Richard was the one taking the medicine; I was there in a supporting role, simply loving, caring and coping as best we could. As Caregivers, our journey is filled with difficult peaks and valley’s, we try to pave the roads we journey so that the path is as smooth possible, so when there is a problem at hand, there is always a gentle breeze at our caree’s back. Caregiving is filled with so many raw emotions, that sometimes we forget that we are on a beautiful, yet difficult journey together. For Richard and I, humor and laughter helped lightened some very dark days. For us then, and for me now, laughter is truly the best medicine. Laughter allows me to grieve and heal.
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