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A Book Cover Preview: On National Bow Tie Day


As you might have noticed, I have not spent much time blogging on The Purple Jacket over the past six weeks or so.  However, that does not  mean that I have stopped writing.   As The Bow Tie Guy,  it seems fitting on National Bow Tie Day I share with you with a preview of the cover of my  first book, ‘What’s The Deal With Caregiving’ published Jack Tatar at People Tested Media.

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Photo Credit: Photo Journalist Carline Jean with permission from the Sun-Sentinel

Now in our final edits, my goal in writing  “What’s The Deal With Caregiving” is to bring readers a comfort zone to reflect, re-energize, and find reassurance, knowing there are other Caregivers out there, just like you, who understands your journey, who cares for you, and simply loves you because you care.  As a Caregiver, I’ve been there and because of my personal experience, I want to guide and assist your journey

I will be sure to keep you informed as we get closer to publishing this fall.   Here is just one of the many testimonials that have been sent in to me.

“I really love the approach you took with this – it’s different and of great interest to me as someone who was caregiving a loved one. It’s different because you are approaching it from angles that I don’t remember reading about before. You highlight important issues that sat at periphery of my awareness. I wish I had read this the year Kris started to wind down. Unfortunately I can’t go backwards, but for those now embarking on the caregiving journey it will be of immeasurable value.” Ira Woods, President and CEO of One World Memorials.  Author’s Note: Please visit Ira Woods’ blog, Conscious Departures.com for his well-written and compelling story in regards to when Caregiving ends.

A special thanks to my family, Richard’s family and my  friends in both South Florida and St. Louis for their continued support as I finish this first project.

Writing this book has been cathartic!

We are already working on book number 2 ‘Healing Ties: A Story about Love, Care, Cancer and Commitment’ which will delve deeper into our Caregiving  story with personal accounts of the five pillars:  our physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, and financial health. I will write openly about our joys, laughter and struggles, because in the end, our story is about the meaning of love. Look for book 2 to be published early 2016.

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We Might Have (had) Cancer, but Cancer Never Had Us!

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Living In The Past?


The quality of a leader is reflected in the standards they set for themselves. Ray Kroc

One of the most important components to being a Healthy Caregiver is to know your strengths, weaknesses, while realizing that asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness.

I am learning that the same rule of order applies for people like myself who are in after-caregiving.  When the Caregiving journey ends, we look for outlets, we look for a path, because in after caregiving, our roads can tend to be filled with steep hills and deep drops.  The hardest of the roads are those round-a-bouts, were you think you are going somewhere, yet you just spin around and around to you realize that you are on the same path.

Reaching out for help while you are in after caregiving, is just as important is it is when you are in the midst of Caregiving. Yet the risk is harder because this ask, it is all about you.  I’ve had to learn the hard way that I can’t do this after-caregiving gig by myself.  Living in the past is hard: Living in the moment is the only way to go.

To many people to publicly thank, but special recognition to my friend Betty, all my siblings, Denise, Kathy, Abel, John, Ernest for encouragement and support.  A new chapter awaits me and is just around the corner.  Now back to writing and continue the path on  how to better care for myself, and live in the present, because in the end, living in the past does not change it, living in the past affects the present.

 

 

 

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Washing Away 2014 With One Last Toast


When love is at its best, one loves so much that he cannot forget.  Helen Hunt Jackson

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New Years Eve Toast 2013. Photo Credit: Carline Jean Sun-Sentinel

Last week during the Christmas holiday, we took a drive down memory lane and visited all the beautiful lights on Ocean Drive in Palm Beach and Broward County.  The outpouring of support from those two blog post is most appreciate.

As we move into the New Year, I do not want to forget about 2014, but I do want to wash it away.  Healing and grieving is different for everyone who has gone through the loss of a loved one.  Grieving would not be hard if love was not involved. Healing would be next to impossible without family and friends like you!

This year, I have decided not to make any new year resolutions, but rather to make some new year commitments.  In 2015, I will commit to taking better care of myself, including my physical, emotional, spiritual and financial self.  There is no secret weapon or path to accomplish this; taking better care of myself is something that is important to my healing process.   Caregivers understand that the last person who gets care, is the Caregiver.  Now, it is time for me to embark on a new caregiving role; caring for myself.

In 2015, I will continue to advocate for Caregivers and their Caree’s through my new radio show, Healing TiesTieHands on Health Cafe Life.com and iHeart Radio.  Our downloadshow on iHeart is listed under the Health section and there are already 10 shows up for you to listen to by simply clicking here!   (Listen in and be sure to click on the heart!)  I will keep blogging on ‘The Purple Jacket’ as this spot is reserved for TLO and all of our friends and followers who have been supportive over WholeCareNetworkthe years.  Early in 2015, I will introduce a new website, Healing Ties which will feature information about the radio show while introducing you to the Whole Care Network.  The new site is still in the development process, but you can take a quick look at the new website by clicking here!  Your feedback and opinion on the new website is most appreciated!  Our new website will highlight the Whole Care Network  which will be a bevy of referrals and references to help you create Healing Ties in your life and in your community.

There are three eBooks in the works and one major book, about our caregiving story, ‘In Sickness and In Health: A Couple’s Final Journey’ is in the works, too. image004Early in 2015 you’ll see posting about group cruises for Caregivers, especially for those Caregivers who have lost a spouse or a partner.  It is time for us to come together in celebration, in care, in commitment and in love, to support and be there for each other. There are some other exciting opportunities that are presenting themselves as we move forward in 2015, I will be sure to keep you in the loop! It is going to be a busy year with workshops and presentations across the country: remember I am making a new year commitment,  not a new year resolution!

IMG_47020763026057 I do not have any fancy words or sage advice today, that’s never been our style here on The Purple Jacket; I simply write from the aspect of love, care and commitment which seems to fit just fine.  As I wash away 2014, I toast you, and thank you for being with us on this journey.  One thing this past year has taught me is to live in the moment: Funny TLO used to tell me that all the time!  So as we bring in the new year, I am thankful for the love that we shared, thankful for the life with TLO, and ready and willing to move forward, just as he wanted me to do.

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“I love the photo that includes your rear view mirror – you brought your past into the present last night.” Denise Brown from Aftergiving.com

I leave you with this wonderful quote  brought to you by my good friend, Denise Brown from Caregiving.com and Aftergiving.com ” I love the photo that includes your rear view mirror–you brought your past into the present last night.” I did not get the symbolism of this picture until Denise pointed it out to me, I am so thankful to Denise for her insight! Why? Because, I never want to forget about the past, yet life moves forward, not back.  Love is what shapes us: Love will never be washed away! 

Blessed and Happy New Year to you and your family! 

 

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Follow Up on Re-Branding The Purple Jacket Blog?


The starting point of all achievement is desire. Napoleon Hill

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Chris and his Purple Jacket circa 2006

 Thank you for all who have voted in our poll about re-branding The Purple Jacket Blog to Healing Ties!

Up today Monday December 8th, here are the poll results up to Monday, December 8th.

Question 1: Should the blog be re branded from The Purple Jacket to Healing Ties? 63% said YES: 25% said NO: 2% said other

Question 2: On first look, did you identify The Purple Jacket as a Caregivers Blog,70% said YES: Alzheimer Blog, 10 % said YES: Clothing Blog 10% said Yes: Other, 10% said yes!

Question 3: What makes a blog, the title or its contents?   87% responded contents/ 13% responded both

I appreciate your vote and yes, there is still time to cast your vote at http://wp.me/p1gewn-142

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Thursday are always ‘Hug A Caregiver Day!’


Caregiving can sometimes be hard:

But Hugging a Caregiver is easy!

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Listen to: 

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 My Show, ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ is on Hiatus while TLO is going through Radiation Treatment, we will be back on the air in December!

 However all of our episodes of ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ are archived for your listening convenience by clicking here! 

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Thursday are always ‘Hug A Caregiver Day!’


Caregiving can sometimes be hard:

But Hugging a Caregiver is easy!

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Listen to: 

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Tuesday’s  at 1:00 pm (EST) and Thursday’s at 8:00 pm!

Can’t listen live…NO WORRIES!

All of our episodes of ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ are archived for your listening convenience by clicking here! 

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Thursday are always ‘Hug A Caregiver Day!’


Caregiving can sometimes be hard:

But Hugging a Caregiver is easy!

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Listen to: 

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Tuesday’s  at 1:00 pm (EST)

Can’t listen live…NO WORRIES!

All of our episodes of ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ are archived for your listening convenience by clicking here! 

 

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Thursday are always ‘Hug A Caregiver Day!’


Caregiving can sometimes be hard:

But Hugging a Caregiver is easy!

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Listen to: 

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Tuesday’s  at 1:00 pm (EST) and Thursday’s at 8:00 pm!

Can’t listen live…NO WORRIES!

All of our episodes of ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ are archived for your listening convenience by clicking here! 

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Hug A Caregiver Day!


Caregiving can sometimes be hard:

But Hugging a Caregiver is easy!

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Listen to: 

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Tuesday’s  at 1:00 pm (EST)

Can’t listen live…NO WORRIES!

All of our episodes of ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ are archived for your listening convenience by clicking here! 

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The Financial Struggles of Caregiving


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On Tuesday, October 1st at 1pm (est), I am pleased to welcome Nate Purpura, from eHealth, Inc.   To listen to our show live, simply click here! 

There is an estimated 44 million working family Caregivers in the United States today. Recent studies also indicate that due to time off of work, Caregivers can expect to lose wages totaling over $140,000!  According to eHealth Insurance, about one-third of adults who provide unpaid care for their elderly parents say they’ll have to use their own retirement savings to help their parents financially.

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Our guest, Nate Purpura, is the Director of Public Relations for eHealthmedicare.com and eHealthinsurance.com – division of eHealth, Inc has spent the last decade working in the health care and insurance industries. Nate’s area of focus have included everything from pharmaceuticals, health and wellness and chronic disease management programs to cutting diagnostic tools, insurance products, including Medicare, and internet-based “exchanges” or  marketplaces.

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Having a grasp of finances is a critical component to Caregiving, but at times, an area that can be left unattended.  Through our conversation with Nate, we will learn why Caregivers often struggle with finances, along with gaining some helpful tips make this area of our Caregiving journey less stressful so that we can all ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver!’

To listen to our show live, simply click here! 

To Visit eHealth online:

Homepage: http://www.ehealthmedicare.com/ 

Blog: http://blog.ehealthmedicare.com/ 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ehealthmedicare 

Google+: https://plus.google.com/108383927295539973030/posts  

Twitter: https://twitter.com/ehealthmedicare

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