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New Station, Same Great Show!


Everyone has a story, but not everyone gets to share their story.

Healing Ties radio returns in January with new guests, new topics, new format, and a new station.

It is about creating a life to love after Caregiving ends through advocacy, leadership, writing, radio, travel, cruises

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After The Hospital…What’s Next?


Join us on Wednesday, February  11th at 7 pm EST on HealthCafeLive.com as we welcome    Erica Jones from Southern Health Care Management, LLC.  Erica is the Regional Director of  Admissions for Southern Health Care Management, LLC and Erica just happens to know a thing or two about Independent Living, Assisted Living and Skilled Nursing!  Erica understands the process from the clients perspective, and knows what questions to ask from hospital discharge to rehabilitation to placement.  As Caregivers, we are always looking for trusted resources to help us make sound decisions; Erica Jones is one of those trusted  resources!  Listen in and learn how Erica is creating “Healing Ties” all around us!

To Listen live on Wednesday at 7:00 pm (est), simply click here! 

Busy tonight, cannot listen live?  NO WORRIES!  Healing Ties is available on demand on our Healing Ties iHeart Channel by clicking here! 
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Tips on Effectively Balancing your Professional Life and Caring for Your Aging Parents


Today I am pleased to welcome a guest blogger on ‘The Purple Jacket’ , Fiona Jameson.

Tips on Effectively Balancing your Professional Life and Caring for Your Aging Parents

There comes a time in life when you will need to help care for your aging parents. While many aging people prefer to maintain their independence as much as possible, most will welcome the help. It will be hard with your busy professional life and family of your own, but with a little help and a few tips the balancing act will be easier to accomplish. When the aid that your aging parents needs is more than you are able to provide, respite care may be the best answer.

blog1Move your Parents into your Home

In some cases, it is easier to help your parents and maintain their independence as much as possible is to move them in with you. This may mean purchasing a new house, making a few renovations or updating a few things to make it comfortable for them. When aging parents live with their children and their families, someone is around a good amount of the time to help them with their needs.

Schedule Meal Deliveries

Several meal delivery services and private chefs can be accessed to ensure that your aging parents eat balanced meals. If you do not have a work schedule that coincides with their eating schedule, having meals delivered to them daily, or even weekly, will provide them with that nutrition. All they will have to do is warm up the items in the microwave or in the oven and it is ready to eat.

blog2Consider Assisted Living Situations

In order to help your parents maintain a good amount of their independence, ask them to consider moving to an assisted living community. Here they will have access to medical staff in case of an emergency and can get assistance with cleaning, laundry and other items if needed. These communities are safe areas with many having security cameras and entrance gates. Within these communities are other aging persons that your parents can bond with.

Visiting your parents can be done anytime you’d like, since the living areas are like them having an apartment of their own. It is one of the easier ways to manage their care and be able to help them with things like getting to doctor’s appointments, grocery shopping and picking up medication. It will be less stressful for you since worrying about their well-being will be less of a burden.

Look into Hiring a Caregiver

If you have spoken with your parents and they refuse to move into your home or consider an assisted living situation, offer to help find a caregiver that can come daily, or a few times per week. This can be someone to come in and clean, cook meals or just provide companionship. A caregiver can also drive your parents to appointments, activities, entertainment, grocery shopping and anywhere else they need or want to go. It helps both you and your parents. The weekends, of course, should be the time when you take time away from work to spend with your parents helping them with maintenance, talking and whatever else they might want to do.

blog3Spend Weekends Helping Them

When your professional life doesn’t leave time for you to visit and help your aging parents as much as you’d like, be sure to set time aside on the weekends for them. If they are still living in their own home, cut the grass in the summer months and help maintain flower beds, vegetable gardens and their home. While it may seem like having a second job, a few hours a day on the weekends makes all the difference in the world. They spent their lives raising you and your siblings, it’s now the job of the children to help take care of them. It shows a great appreciation for your parents and can add to the longevity of their lives.

 Consider Respite Care

If in-home care and assisted living situations are absolutely out of the question, a respite situation may be needed. As parents age, they can become ill, frail and unable to take care of themselves. This may also be something that is far beyond what you are able to provide. A respite situation ensures that your parents will be well cared for. They will have exercise, balanced meals, companionship and their medications distributed at specific times daily. Many respite facilities also have activities, crafts and social events for residents to partake in. This helps keep them feeling like there is a purpose to fight and stay stubborn.

blog4Get Other Family Members Involved

Even with a busy professional life, there are other members in the family that can help care for your aging parents. Your children can be taken to visit for a few hours during the week to share what is going on in school and listen to stories told by your parents. Siblings and spouses can also do their part to help out by taking turns going to help out for a little bit each day after their days are done. When some of the tasks are taken off of your shoulders, balancing your career and caring for your parents is absolutely possible.

 Parental care is something that every family has to face at some point. It is up to the members of the family to work out a schedule to help them. You can balance your career and take on all of the responsibilities yourself if you wish. Use the tips above to make balancing your professional life and caring for your parents easier.

  •  Fiona Jameson is a Psychology major. Since her college, she has actively taken part in a lot of social service programs which further enhanced her urge to help out the elderly and disabled. Over the years, she has closely worked as a consultant with several philanthropic organizations, guiding those who need her help.

 

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Thursday’s are always ‘Hug A Caregiver Day!’


Caregiving can sometimes be hard:

But Hugging a Caregiver is easy!

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‘”Be A Healthy Caregiver” is on hiatus while “TLO” is undergoing radiation treatments.  We plan on being back on the Air in Januray!

Can’t listen live…NO WORRIES!

All of our episodes of ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ are archived for your listening convenience by clicking here! 

 

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Thursday’s are always ‘Hug A Caregiver Day!’


Caregiving can sometimes be hard:

But Hugging a Caregiver is easy!

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‘”Be A Healthy Caregiver” is on hiatus while “TLO” is undergoing radiation treatments.  We plan on being back on the Air in December!

Can’t listen live…NO WORRIES!

All of our episodes of ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ are archived for your listening convenience by clicking here! 

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The Foundation: The Honor Of Caregiving.


I have looked into your eyes with my eyes.  I have put my heart near your heart. Pope John XXIII

This Friday I will be presenting on Caregiving at SunServe’s Silver Serve Luncheon.   I’ve taken most of what I have written below from previous blog post on ‘The Purple Jacket’.  Your feedback is always welcomed! 

The Foundation: The Honor Of Caregiving

To be entrusted with the care of another human being is one of the greatest honors that can be bestowed on you.  Caregiving takes on meaning that is beyond reproach.  New parents have nine months to prepare for the responsibility of bringing a child into the world.  Doctors and nurses undergo years of rigorous training for the work that they do.   But CaregiversDavid Allen can find themselves thrust suddenly into roles, roles that they often do not choose, when called to care for a spouse, partner or loved one after a diagnosis or accident.

At a moment’s notice you become a Caregiver, without any warning, with any training, without any time to think things through.  You feel like you have no idea of what you are supposed to do, so you do your best as you follow your instincts and common sense.  You embrace the new reality…You simply care for the one you love.

When you become a Caregiver for your spouse, partner, significant other,   a new and uncharted realm opens up.  Two distinct relationships must now be blended into one.   The familiar partner from the past remains and is always present. But now there is someone different on the scene – someone with a significant illness.

Suddenly, two people sharing a life together will face challenges that cannot  be left unattended?  A whole set of new and intense emotions are likely to intrude on the relationship.  Worry, detachment, mortality, anger, fear of abandonment and having to live life alone,  begin to intertwine with the idiosyncrasies of your personal dynamics.  These gut wrenching emotions can lurk in a caregiver’s mind when faced with a life-and-relationship-altering illness with your life partner.

Caregiving is an intense experience that asks you to surrender yourself to the needs of someone else.  Often times, you have to give up things that you love, in order to care for the one you love.  Even though it might feel like a hardship, you make the choice, you make the choice because you know that it is what love and commitment is all about.  Yet it is not that simple, because Caregiving can be an emotional, physical, and interpersonal roller coaster that is both tremendously rewarding and frustrating.   These emotions can surely test even the best communication and trust in a relationship.

The common denominator when blending a life partnership with Caregiving is communication.

Successful relationships are built on strong communication and trust.  It is throughcaring hands honest communication that the true essence of a life partnership is revealed.  This does not change when you add the role of Caregiver to the mix.  Communication has to be the focal point for conveying the wants and needs of the one who is ill. This must be accomplished without losing one individuality, the life partnership, or the role of the Caregiver.  The term “delicate balance” takes on a whole new meaning

Frequent review and maintenance of clarity in your roles becomes crucial so that our judgment and decision-making skills are based on sound facts instead of raw emotions.  How much can the mind and body take when faced with so many changes in such period of time? I think that really depends on the couple’s ability to safely, clearly and honestly communicate their wants, needs and desires as indicated by the partners health needs first and the relationship second.

While I have no doubt that caring for your life partner will strengthen a relationship, Caregiving will change a relationship too!  It is not uncommon to see someone who has been firmly independent, become dependent in certain areas of life that have been difficult for them to accept. Stepping outside one’s comfort zone and asking for assistance with mundane everyday chores adds stress to both parties…That is undeniable!

Caregivers often become the voice for the one who is ill.  As Caregivers, we have to be mindful that we are in a supporting role.  First and foremost, Caregivers are advocates.   In our role as an advocate, we must remember that what we may want for our loved one may not necessarily be what the love on wants. What a slippery slope this becomes when caring for your life partner!

Life’s journeys are not often driven on smooth roads, but we can always hope for a gentle wind at our back. This gentle wind is always fortified by love, trust, commitment and communication.

…My your hills be always be slight and with a gentle wind at your back.

The Purple Jacket©

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Tuesday On Be A Heatlhy Caregiver


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Tuesday’s topic on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ is the  Society of Certified Senior Advisors in Denver, Colorado.   To listen to our show live, simply click here!

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Through the vision of Ed Pittcok, founder of Society of Certified Senior Advisors,  Ed gathered experts in all facets of aging, including doctors, attorney, geronotoligst, accountants and financial planner.  All shared Ed’s vision; that seniors would benefit from an in-depth, standardized education from professionals who work with seniors. The education program that his group of renowned experts created became the basis for the Certified Senior Advisors (CSA) designation.

Why work with a CSA?  CSA’s are held to a high standard of competency as the society wants only ethical, honest and principal professionals as members. Any professional who wants to become a CSA must first agree to the CSA Code of Professional Responsibility.

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Curtis Petersen

Our guest today,  Curtis Petersen, has spent 7 years as a National Accounts Manager with the Society and works directly with national companies and professionals in the senior market navigating the education and certification process.  Through our conversation today with Curtis, not only will we learn of the importance of working with a CSA, we will all learn how to ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver!’

To listen to our show live, simply click here! 

To contact the Society of Certified Senior Advisors call 888-819-3917

To locate the Society of Certified Senior Advisors on-live visit these links:

www.csa.us

https://www.facebook.com/CertifiedSeniorAdvisors

www.linkedin.com/in/curtispetersen

www.twitter.com/SocietyCSA

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Tuesday On Be A Heatlhy Caregiver


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Tuesday’s topic on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ is the  Society of Certified Senior Advisors in Denver, Colorado.   To listen to our show live, simply click here!

Member 2C

Through the vision of Ed Pittcok, founder of Society of Certified Senior Advisors,  Ed gathered experts in all facets of aging, including doctors, attorney, geronotoligst, accountants and financial planner.  All shared Ed’s vision; that seniors would benefit from an in-depth, standardized education from professionals who work with seniors. The education program that his group of renowned experts created became the basis for the Certified Senior Advisors (CSA) designation.

Why work with a CSA?  CSA’s are held to a high standard of competency as the society wants only ethical, honest and principal professionals as members. Any professional who wants to become a CSA must first agree to the CSA Code of Professional Responsibility.

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Curtis Petersen

Our guest today,  Curtis Petersen, has spent 7 years as a National Accounts Manager with the Society and works directly with national companies and professionals in the senior market navigating the education and certification process.  Through our conversation today with Curtis, not only will we learn of the importance of working with a CSA, we will all learn how to ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver!’

To listen to our show live, simply click here! 

To contact the Society of Certified Senior Advisors call 888-819-3917

To locate the Society of Certified Senior Advisors on-live visit these links:

www.csa.us

https://www.facebook.com/CertifiedSeniorAdvisors

www.linkedin.com/in/curtispetersen

www.twitter.com/SocietyCSA

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Tuesday’s at 1:00 pm / Thursday’s at 8:00 pm: all times eastern

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When The Caregiver Becomes Ill


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You must do things you think you cannot do.  Eleanor Roosevelt

I love that quote from Eleanor Roosevelt; I wonder if she had Caregivers in mind when she spoke those lovely words? Caregivers often find themselves in impossible positions balancingPr_102_-_TRI_-_22_12_10_-_043 work, life along with Caregiving responsibilities.  Sometimes our Caregiving Cape does wear out, we are only human, even if sometimes we think that we’re not!  This past week, my Caregiving Cape took its turn on the sidelines as I became the Caree.  Stricken with Strep Throat, I was down and out for the count.  I’ve been blessed throughout my life with very few health calamities, but this illness through both of us for the loop.

ID-10014937 My first concern this week was for ‘The Little One’ as we both know that Strep Throat can be highly contagious.  We took every precaution we could possibility think of while staying as far apart from each other was we could.  One of his great lines this week was, “if I end up getting what you have, just drop me off at the hospital!”  I could see the concern in his eyes!  Even when I was ‘down and out’ my thoughts were always with him.  Then TLO finally said, ‘When are you going to take better care of yourself!’  Not being the one who gets sick, his comments hit me square in the eye.

When one becomes concerned about everything else but self, one tends to get ill, physically, mentally, spiritually.  It’s that good approach to holistic health that we all strive for in our busy caregiving day, but can be so elusive when we get lost. I know, I’ve been there!  While I’ve taken the steps to deal with my weight gain (14 lbs. eliminated!) I recognize after this past week that now it is time for me to get my embrace a holistic approach to good health and spirituality which is comprehensive of my needs.  This past week has been a great wake-up call for me.  To ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ means to embrace all components in life, not just a select few.

As a Caregiver, we are often planning doctors appointments, transportation, meals, you name is, we plan it.  But I have to wonder, do we have a plan for when we get sick?  One of the ‘TLO’s’ concerns this week was simply what happens to me if you get sick?  Having a plan in place, (and a back up plan to the first one, too!) is imperative to obtaining a piece of that holistic approach to good health and spirituality.  Many friend will tell you when you discuss a plan,  ‘don’t worry, call me at a moments notice  and I will be there.’  However a plan that is not written down on a piece of paper, then confirmed by all participants, is worthless.

043My plan this weekend is to make sure that all our plans are in place so that both of us can rest assured when I am not in service.   I would be interested to know what plans you have in place to help deal with the onset of illness when you’re a Caregiver?

You see…We Might Have Cancer, But Cancer Does Not Have Us!

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Caregiver Burnout: 9 Ways to Avoid It


In celebration of National Caregiver’s Month, I would like to welcome Hannah Munson as our guest blogger to ‘The Purple Jacket” today.  Hannah is a recent Social Worker graduate who interned for two years as a caregiver in the Metro Detroit  area provides us with some gentle reminders  on how to avoid Caregiver Burnout.

While reading Hannah’s  terrific post, I am reminded that in order to ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’, we have to take good care of ourselves, too!   Thanks Hannah for your contribution today!

Caregiver Burnout: 9 Ways to Avoid It

Caregivers are the kind of people whose profession warrants them to take care of people who are no longer capable of doing it for their selves. However, we must not forget that caregivers are also human beings who also have their own bodies which also need to be taken care of.  Every caregiver has to see to it that he or she is always in a good working condition.  But, if there are times when he or she begins to experience burnout something must be done right away.  The following are some of the ways to avoid burnout:

1.      Do not keep everything to yourself.

If you feel like you need someone else who understands your predicament as a caregiver, might as well join a support group.  These groups will enable you to express your anxiety, predicament and other problems without the fear of being unfairly judged.

2.     Take some time off.

Caregivers must be proactive in telling their superiors that they badly need some time off for themselves.  They should not wait for their supervisors to notice their being stressed out before they request for a time-off.

3.     Eat nutritious foods.

This would mean that you should not just eat anything that you want.  See to it that you are eating foods that will help you become healthy enough to take care of your patients or somebody else.

4.     Have enough sleep.

Even if your occupation requires you to work on a graveyard shift, this should not be reason enough for you to deprive yourself of enough sleep.  Always find time to have enough sleep to recharge your senses and your entire body.

5.     Exercise regularly.

Exercise is one of the most effective ways to prevent burn out.  When you take the time to exercise on a regular basis you will always have the chance to unwind. Get focused on your exercise and you will be relieved from stress and anxiety.

6.     Find time for your favorite hobby.

Burn out is usually caused by too much exposure to highly stressful situations.  One way to relax is to have time for your favorite hobby.  Read if you must or indulge in your favorite sports.

7.     Be informed.

Sometimes, caregivers experience stress, anxiety or that burn out feeling when they need to take care of a patient who has serious medical condition.  Read and search the internet for more information regarding your patient’s condition.  This way, you will become better equipped with knowledge on how to deal with your patient.

8.    Express yourself.

Some caregivers would prefer to keep their sentiments to themselves because they are too shy to share it with others.  Call a trusted friend with whom you can express your feelings. Letting out your emotions will prove to be one great way to relieve yourself.

9.     Take time to meditate.

You do not have to go to the gym or to a Yoga class in order to have time to meditate.  Just look for a quiet room in your house where you can sit comfortably and concentrate.  Meditation allows you to relax and become more focused on your goals and not on the negative things that are happening in your life.

This was a post written by Hannah M.  She runs the website ‘How Much Is It’.  You can access her website by clicking here.   “How Much Is It” a large resource that helps you find the cost on just about anything.  Please, Check it out!

If you are interested in being a guest blogger on ‘The Purple Jacket” please send me an email by clicking here 

 ‘We Might Have Cancer…

But Cancer Does Not Have Us!’

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