National Bow Tie Day!


Today is National Bow Tie Day. Have you ever seen someone who was wearing a bow tie who was not…smiling! Wearing a bow tie is like wearing a second smile!

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What ever you choose to wear today, make sure it comes with a smile!

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Alzheimers Dementia Wristband Hospital Project


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Gary LeBlanc

Join us on Tuesday August 27th at 1:00pm (est) for a conversation with Gary LeBlanc from Common Sense Caregiving, founder of the Alzheimer’s Dementia Wristband Hospital Project and Margaret Doerr, CEO of Nursing at Brooksville Regional Hospital in Brooksville, Florida.

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After enduring 3 nightmares hospital stays with his dad who was diagnosed with Alzheimer’s, Gary recognized that there needed to be a better way for staff to recognize the special needs of his father. 

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Margaret Doerr

On today’s show, we are going to talk with Gary  and Margaret about how one, simple, identification bracelet can go a long way in providing comfort and security for patients, caregivers and a hospital staff. Yet this is more than just putting a bracelet on an Alzheimer’s patients:  this project is about training, educating and recognizing the special needs of Alzheimer’s patients to an entire hospital staff!

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Gary’s project is a prime example of how Caregivers can have an impact on polices and procedures because Caregivers are always the ones in the trenches!  Through our conversation with Gary and Margaret, we will all learn how to ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver!’.

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When The Caregiver Becomes Ill


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You must do things you think you cannot do.  Eleanor Roosevelt

I love that quote from Eleanor Roosevelt; I wonder if she had Caregivers in mind when she spoke those lovely words? Caregivers often find themselves in impossible positions balancingPr_102_-_TRI_-_22_12_10_-_043 work, life along with Caregiving responsibilities.  Sometimes our Caregiving Cape does wear out, we are only human, even if sometimes we think that we’re not!  This past week, my Caregiving Cape took its turn on the sidelines as I became the Caree.  Stricken with Strep Throat, I was down and out for the count.  I’ve been blessed throughout my life with very few health calamities, but this illness through both of us for the loop.

ID-10014937 My first concern this week was for ‘The Little One’ as we both know that Strep Throat can be highly contagious.  We took every precaution we could possibility think of while staying as far apart from each other was we could.  One of his great lines this week was, “if I end up getting what you have, just drop me off at the hospital!”  I could see the concern in his eyes!  Even when I was ‘down and out’ my thoughts were always with him.  Then TLO finally said, ‘When are you going to take better care of yourself!’  Not being the one who gets sick, his comments hit me square in the eye.

When one becomes concerned about everything else but self, one tends to get ill, physically, mentally, spiritually.  It’s that good approach to holistic health that we all strive for in our busy caregiving day, but can be so elusive when we get lost. I know, I’ve been there!  While I’ve taken the steps to deal with my weight gain (14 lbs. eliminated!) I recognize after this past week that now it is time for me to get my embrace a holistic approach to good health and spirituality which is comprehensive of my needs.  This past week has been a great wake-up call for me.  To ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ means to embrace all components in life, not just a select few.

As a Caregiver, we are often planning doctors appointments, transportation, meals, you name is, we plan it.  But I have to wonder, do we have a plan for when we get sick?  One of the ‘TLO’s’ concerns this week was simply what happens to me if you get sick?  Having a plan in place, (and a back up plan to the first one, too!) is imperative to obtaining a piece of that holistic approach to good health and spirituality.  Many friend will tell you when you discuss a plan,  ‘don’t worry, call me at a moments notice  and I will be there.’  However a plan that is not written down on a piece of paper, then confirmed by all participants, is worthless.

043My plan this weekend is to make sure that all our plans are in place so that both of us can rest assured when I am not in service.   I would be interested to know what plans you have in place to help deal with the onset of illness when you’re a Caregiver?

You see…We Might Have Cancer, But Cancer Does Not Have Us!

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Hug A Caregiver Day!


Caregiving can sometimes be hard:

But Hugging a Caregiver is easy!

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Tuesday’s  at 1:00 pm (EST) and Thursday’s at 8:00 pm!

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Monk On A Mission for Caregivers Health


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Wednesday night on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ on Blog Talk Radio come meet an ambitious monk who’s on a mission to take care of caregivers locally and globally.  Learn how Soul Dancer will help you earn an income by eating a meal or reading a book all the while supporting his massive mission.  To listen to our show live, simply click here! 

 Click this link to learn more about this mission.
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Dementia and Rummage Bags: Yes!


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Join me on Tuesday August 13th at 1:00 pm on ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ on Blog Talk Radio, as we visit Seth Gillman and  Kaitlyn Henderson from Passages Hospice.  Passages Hospice has developed this wonderful program simply called ‘Rummage Bags’ to help dementia patients (and their caregivers) cope!    Whether you are a man or a woman, we’ve all had the experience of rummaging through a bag, a box, a pocket, a drawer, looking for the elusive item that just seems to be out of our reach. Yet when we find what we are looking for, there is that moment of elation!  To listen to our show live, simply click here! 

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We will have a delightful conversation on Tuesday about this terrific program, while chatting about the great work Passages Hospice does in many communities throughout the Midwest. We will also have some terrific tips for Caregivers who are caring for a loved one with dementia.   Through our conversation with Seth and Kaitlyn, we will all learn how to ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver!’ 

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Guests This Week on Be A Healthy Caregiver!


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Join us on Tuesday August 13th at 1:00pm for a wonderful conversation with Seth Gillman and Kaitlyn Henderson from Passages Hospice as we discuss their insightful Rummage Bag Program!  To hear the show live on Tuesday,  simply click here!

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On A special Wednesday edition of Be A Healthy Caregiver on Blog Talk Radio we welcome Soul Dancer: A Monk On A Mission to Care for Caregivers.  This will be a lively discussion starting at 8:00 pm (EST).  To listen live, simply click here! 

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My 90 Day Weight Loss Challenge


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I’ve had it with my excuses; I’ve had it with feeling lousy; I am in control of my own destiny!  This Yo-Yo weight gainweight loss has to stop, who is the one that can do this…ME, only ME.  Do I need encouragement, yes I do!

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254 lbs as of 8/11/2013

We are 90 days out from our 1st Annual Care Cruise and I want to fit into the most meaningful piece of clothing that I own, my Purple Jacket. 

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The ‘Real’ Purple Jacket

There really is a Purple Jacket and as evident by the picture about and the picture below

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The Purple Jacket signifies a beautiful time in my life while caring for my friend Father Richard Orlando.  Prior to taking on the role of his Caregiver, I worked hard to lose 100lbs. The purchase of ‘The Purple Jacket’ was totally out of character for me because I would never have worn something like that when I was so heavy.  Now, it simply does not fit!

 The pictures tell the story, the round and bloated face is reappearing…

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Circa 2006

 

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Circa August 11, 2013

Caregivers often lose sight of themselves while in their role of Caregiver.  While that is a common trait, the one person who wants you to take good care of yourself is the person you are caring for!  I know that is what is prevalent in my home, how about yours?

As much as I want to swirl  my Caregiving Cape (admit it, you know you have a Caregiving Cape, too!)  I can’t bring Father Orlando back, nor can I take away TLO’s esophageal cancer; but I can control how I feel, what I say and what I do to make myself healthy.  I owe is to myself…Imagine that a Caregiver taking care of themselves! 

So here is the plan…

  • Eat Less > Move More
  • No more processed food
  • No more power eating
  • Healthy Mind Set
  • Work with my trainer David Levison
  • No more excuses
  • Chart food intake and exercise on My Fitness Pal
  • No more eating out
  • No more short cuts
  • Walk, Bike Ride, or Swim every day
  •  Connect Body, Mind and Spirit

Where You Can Help…

  • Encourage Me
  • Challenge Me
  • Be With Me
  • Join Me
  • Follow my progress on my blog
  • Join us on our Caregiving Cruise by clicking here

The first few days this week I am going on a ‘cleanse’ by getting the toxins out of my body with lots of water, fruits and exercise.  In fact, as soon as I hit the publish button, I am going for a walk with my new shoes!

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Shoes on the left are from the time when I lost 100lbs

I want to be able to wear my Purple Jacket on our Care Cruise in November…but most of all, I want to be fit both mentally and physically for my own well-being.  In order to ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’  we have to take care of yourself, too!  I’ve dropped the ball over the past few months, but now I am ready to go.  Fr. Orlando said to be before he died, ‘Do not put that weight back on!’

It’s time to make it happen and the e only one who can make this happen is me.  If I can learn to take care of myself as well as I take care of TLO, I will be in tip-top shape before I know it!

You see, we might have Cancer, But Cancer Does Not Have Us!

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Lost Time Is Never Found Again


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Time Is What We Want Most, But What We Used Worst…William Penn

This week we motored to the Eye Doctor for an appointment for TLO.  This was a new doctor added to our portfolio as his previous Eye Doctor was no longer on the TLO’s insurance plan.   Like many caregivers, I ended leaving 

eyecheckwork early in the afternoon to pick up TLO so that we could head west to the appointment.  Twenty minutes from work to home; Twenty minutes from home to the doctor’s office, I guess you can say I was ‘Driving TLO’  (Driving Miss Daisy just did not sound right!)

On our way to the Doctor’s appointment, I got my first indication that this appointment had the potential to be a problem.

  • TLO: “When I made the appointment I asked them to send me the paperwork so I could fill it out and have it ready when we arrive.  I never received the paperwork, so if I do not have any of the information they need, I am going to write on each line, “I’m too old to remember because you did not send me the paperwork ahead of time!”
  • Me:  “How long ago did you make this appointment?”
  • TLO:  “At least six weeks ago and I called them in the mean time to ask them to send me the paperwork”
  • Me: “So you made two request for the paperwork”
  • TLO “Yes!”
  • “Oh Boy” I thought to myself…”This is going to be a long afternoon”

 We promptly arrived 15 minutes ahead of schedule and TLO started to fill out his paperwork.  Surprised that he did not say something to the receptionist about not being mailed the paperwork prior to the appointment, he took pen to paper and started to fill out the requested information.  (Of course, they took his Co pay first!)  As I peeked over to see what how he was doing with the paper work, I noticed a few long answers which started…”I’m too old to remember”… I chuckled, but made sure he was not missing any critical information that the doctor or staff needed which was important to his care.

While completing the paperwork we sat in what I thought was a waiting room, which was empty.  “We are going to move through this appointment quickly I thought.”  WRONG!  45 minutes later the receptionist called us and pointed us down the hallway to a second waiting area.  We were shocked to find 12 people in this waiting room to see the ‘tech’ then the doctor’.  Another 45 minutes, and finally he is called in for his eye exam, which took all of about 15 minutes.

While watching the other patients in the waiting room, I was trying to determine how people were being called in for their exam.  There seemed to be no rhyme or reason as patients who were there before us, were called after us.  You know that is the case when you get the evil eye from someone sitting across the room from you when your name is called, and their name is not.  I could see the nurses, tech support, receptionist all fluttering around the office, but no one taking charge.  Patients sitting there getting frustrated: receptionists with their glass window closed.

Soon TLO returned with the nurse who said…“Take a seat, Mr Schiffer the doctor will see you soon!’  I said to him, ‘What’s up, did you not see the doctor’…’no’ he replied, ‘they just did the test, they will call us again to review with the doctor.’

Oh boy, more delay’s, there is just so much daytime TV one can take; How do people watch those judge shows?

Time continues to drag on, and on and on… now we’re past two hours waitingeye rolling in this office, (as were many of the other patients) and we’re both started to get frustrated.  One of the nurses approaches us wanting to know his primary care doctor and his previous eye doctor. “All that information is on the paperwork, what seems to be the problem” we said in unison. (Yes, he did put that info on the paperwork!)  ‘Oh, we’re just waiting on the referral’ the doctor will not see you without the referral.  YIKES!

One of the great things about TLO is that he follows up with his Primary Care Physician on a regular basis when there is a need for a referral.  He confirmed weeks prior to the appointment that the referral had been sent by his PCP.

Before I could even get to the receptionist to straighten out this mess, TLO had beaten me to the punch.  Let us just say that we have two very diverse ways in handling conflict.  I will let your imagination  run wild about his loud and direct conversation with the receptionist!

thumbsdownTwo and a half hours into our extended stay at the Eye Doctor’s office, we finally just left. 

We have reported the Eye Doctor to our Primary Care Physician so that they do not make any more referrals to that office.  Knowing that they have the needed referral, we have also reported the Eye Doctor to our insurance company because we are both confident that they will bill for the appointment.

Time is a precious commodity. Too often time waiting in doctors’ offices is wasted by inefficiency of the staff; we have all experienced it.  But how do we combat it?

  • Always tell the doctor about your positive and/or negative experience with staff or office procedures, often doctors are the last ones to know.  It is their reputation!
  • Always tell the referring physician about a positive/negative experience with a referral they  have made.
  • When going to a new doctor, always ask for the paperwork in advance of the appointment to help expedite the wait time.
  •  Inform your insurance provider of a problem with a referral
  • Always double-check with your PCP to make sure that the referral has been made.

 I would love to hear what you do to combat wasted time at the doctor’s office!

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Thursday’s are Hug A Caregiver Day!


Caregiving can sometimes be hard:

But Hugging a Caregiver is easy!

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Tuesday’s  at 1:00 pm (EST) and Thursday’s at 8:00 pm!

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All of our episodes of ‘Be A Healthy Caregiver’ are archived for your listening convenience by clicking here! 

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